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mercedeslezzies:

I think this speaks for itself. Accepting a person doesn’t mean you get to put limits on their freedom. You can’t be an ally and want us to stop talking, or labeling, or demanding to be heard.  

Acceptance has no exceptions. Period. 

Nothing to add.

Okay, so I was gonna just scroll past this one but it nagged me, so here I am.
People handle social situations in different ways.
I have a difficult time in social settings that involve large groups of people that I don’t know. This probably seems odd because I worked at a bar for two decades. The difference is that, at the bar, I was working. I had a job to do. A purpose. I basically followed a script. "What can I get you? Do you want a refill?" etc.. In social situations, there is no script. Drop me in a party with people I don’t know and the need to escape overwhelms me.
Yes, everyone gets scared. But for some, running away is the only option that keeps them sane.
Now, it occurs to me that quotelounge probably wasn’t even thinking about social anxiety when this was first posted, but that’s where my mind went and I needed to get this off my chest. People need to understand that some of us are introverts. If you have patience and give us the little time we need to test the water, you’ll have a friend for life.

Okay, so I was gonna just scroll past this one but it nagged me, so here I am.

People handle social situations in different ways.

I have a difficult time in social settings that involve large groups of people that I don’t know. This probably seems odd because I worked at a bar for two decades. The difference is that, at the bar, I was working. I had a job to do. A purpose. I basically followed a script. "What can I get you? Do you want a refill?" etc.. In social situations, there is no script. Drop me in a party with people I don’t know and the need to escape overwhelms me.

Yes, everyone gets scared. But for some, running away is the only option that keeps them sane.

  • Now, it occurs to me that probably wasn’t even thinking about social anxiety when this was first posted, but that’s where my mind went and I needed to get this off my chest. People need to understand that some of us are introverts. If you have patience and give us the little time we need to test the water, you’ll have a friend for life.

monicalewinsky1996:

cindymayweather:

"One fun fact I learned while on the air with Keith Olbermann was that humans on the Internet are scumbags. People say children are cruel, but I was never made fun of as a child or an adult. Suddenly, my disability on the world wide web is fair game. I would look at clips online and see comments like, "Yo, why’s she tweakin?" "Yo, is she retarded?" And my favorite, "Poor Gumby-mouth terrorist. What does she suffer from? We should really pray for her." One commenter even suggested that I add my disability to my credits: screenwriter, comedian, palsy."

Maysoon Zayid on TEDWomen (x)

this is SO IMPORTANT I AM YELLING

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cuntcheetah:

No, it is not the transsexual community. These are fringe people who are looking for story lines to strengthen their identity as victims. That is what we’re dealing with. It’s not the trans community, because most people who are trans have been through hell and high water and they know — they’ve looked behind the curtain at Oz and went, ‘Oh, this is all a fucking joke. But, some people haven’t… You know, if your idea of happiness has to do with someone else changing what they say, what they do, you are in for a fucking hard-ass road.

That idea that “The world is against me! There’s is a conspiracy against me!”, it’s the same as Orwell’s Animal Farm where the animals forgot why they had a revolution in the first place and the pigs start walking up on their hind legs… It’s like “No, no no! The reason we do this is because we wanted to start something different, something new, something broader”, But they secretly just want to be farmer John.

RuPaul 2016!

-teesa-:

The only accurate way to report that 1 out of 4 Americans are skeptical of global warming is to say: A poll finds that 1 out of 4 Americans are wrong about something.

I’m glad I don’t have children. I don’t think I could handle it.

1 in 4 people don’t believe in climate change. That means that 25% of the population isn’t concerned enough about the future of our planet to want to do anything about it.

We are doomed as a species. :\

retrogasm:

The Crisco Twist

What we have here is a pic of the DJ booth at Crisco Disco, a notorious gay dance club located on West 15th st and 10th ave in Manhattan. (New York City’s meatpacking district)
I understand the building is now home to a sophisticated restaurant called Monarch. My have things changed. :P
There was a Crisco Disco album released that wasn’t as successful as the Studio54 album. It’s cover art was more than a little suggestive. If you have it, hold onto it. It’s probably worth a small fortune.
I’m not old enough to have visited Crisco’s, but I had friends who lovingly spoke of it and various other haunts. This image reminded me of them. :)

PS: I’m adding the following comment from VanishingNewYork because it captures the dissatisfaction I sometimes feel with the whitewashing of our cities’ nightlife. (I say ‘cities’ because it’s happening everywhere.)
Anonymous said… The city was once “open” and a lot more fun. Whether you are gay or not, the point is that in those days (everything prior to the mid-late 90’s) the city was more liberal. Now, everything is pretty much “sterilized” and totally boring. The clubs in those days had a cast of characters from the NYC of yesteryear. You had all classes of people (working class and blue collar to street types, to affluent) all mixing together for the sake of good times. I feel like when I go to a club (today) it’s like nobody is having fun…. (source)

retrogasm:

The Crisco Twist

What we have here is a pic of the DJ booth at Crisco Disco, a notorious gay dance club located on West 15th st and 10th ave in Manhattan. (New York City’s meatpacking district)

I understand the building is now home to a sophisticated restaurant called Monarch. My have things changed. :P

There was a Crisco Disco album released that wasn’t as successful as the Studio54 album. It’s cover art was more than a little suggestive. If you have it, hold onto it. It’s probably worth a small fortune.

I’m not old enough to have visited Crisco’s, but I had friends who lovingly spoke of it and various other haunts. This image reminded me of them. :)

PS: I’m adding the following comment from VanishingNewYork because it captures the dissatisfaction I sometimes feel with the whitewashing of our cities’ nightlife. (I say ‘cities’ because it’s happening everywhere.)

  • Anonymous said… The city was once “open” and a lot more fun. Whether you are gay or not, the point is that in those days (everything prior to the mid-late 90’s) the city was more liberal. Now, everything is pretty much “sterilized” and totally boring. The clubs in those days had a cast of characters from the NYC of yesteryear. You had all classes of people (working class and blue collar to street types, to affluent) all mixing together for the sake of good times. I feel like when I go to a club (today) it’s like nobody is having fun…. (source)

The only time you look in your neighbor’s bowl is to make sure that they have enough. You don’t look in your neighbor’s bowl to make sure you have as much as them.

Louis C.K. (via thatlitsite)

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periwinkleletters:

tinalikesbutts:

deansoup:

homol0gy:

psychara:

Call it Satanic or call it common sense.

If they do not stop, destroy them

If Satan needs consent u need consent

Today on “I didn’t know I was a Satanist”

COMMON SENSE.

Correct me if I’m wrong but aren’t those the basic rules of EVERY religion?

…just sayin’.

(Source: lilithluciferous)

talldarklefty:

reverseracism:

postwhitesociety:

pokerwithplato:

subconsciouscelebrity:

The meanings of a few names that people would typically think are ghetto and meaningless
LAKEISHA: a swahili name meaning “favorite one”
LATEEFAH: a north african name meaning “gentle and pleasant”
LATONIA: a latin name. latonia was the mother of diana in roman mythology
LATISHA: means “happiness”
TAKIYA: a north african name meaning “righteous”
ESHE. African Swahili name meaning “immortal”
KALISHA. Probably from the Galla word kalisha “sorcerer, wizard, witch doctor, magician”
LEENA (لينا). Another spelling of Arabic Lina (q.v.), meaning “softness.” In use in Africa.
MAKENA. African Kikuyu name meaning “the happy one.”
NIA. African Swahili name meaning “intention, life purpose, mind.”
MONIFA. African Yoruba name, meaning “I am luck,” from mo “I,” and ifa “profit, luck.”
NUBIA. Unisex. African. From the name of the country Nubia, meaning “land of gold,” from the Coptic word for gold.
AYANA : Ethiopian female name meaning “beautiful flower.”
SHANIKA. Unisex. African Bantu name, probably meaning “young one from the wilderness.”
SALINA. African. A name in use in Kenya. It may mean “merciful.”
TAMEKA. Another spelling of the African Congo name Tamika (q.v.), meaning “a twin,”
TAMELA. African Zulu name meaning “she who basks in the sun,”
AMARA. f. African. From the Swahili word amara, meaning “urgent business.”  Hindu. name meaning “immortal.” African. Ethiopian. Amharic amari, meaning “agreeable, pleasing.”
CHICHI f Western African, Igbo Diminutive of Igbo names beginning with the element Chi meaning “God”.
IMANI f & m Eastern African, Swahili, African American Means “faith” in Swahili, ultimately of Arabic origin.
AZIZA f means “Respected. Darling.” Muslim,African, Egyptian, Arabic, Somali name meaning “gorgeous.
DALIA/DALILA f means “Gentle.” African, Arabic, American, Egyptian, Spanish, African, Hebrew
BIBI : An East African female name meaning “daughter of a king.” Also a Kiswahili word meaning “lady” or “grandmother.”
ADA : Ibo of Nigeria name for firstborn females.
ZENA : Ethiopian name meaning “news” or “fame.”
JAMILAH f means “Beautiful.” Arabic, Muslim, African
KALIFA f means “Chaste; holy.” African
RASHIDI/RASHIDA f means “Wise.” Egyptian African Swahili name meaning “righteous.”
TAJ means “Crown.” Indian,Sanskrit, African
FATUMA : Popular Swahili and Somali versions of the name Muslim name, FATIMA, meaning “weaned.”
NANA : Ghanaian name meaning “mother of the Earth.”
AJA : High Priestess of Mecca.
ADINA : Amharic of Ethiopia word sometimes used as a female name, meaning “she has saved.”
BALINDA : A Rutooro of Uganda name meaning “patience, endurance, fortitude.” (Balinda is also used as a male name in Uganda.)
FANTA : Guinea and Cote D’Ivoire name meaning “beautiful day.”
KAYA : Ghanaian name meaning “stay and don’t go back.”
LAYLA , LAILA , LEYLA , LEILA : Swahili and Muslim name meaning “born at night.”
SHANI : Swahili name meaning “marvelous.”
ANAYA : Ibo of Eastern Nigeria name meaning “look up to God.”
TANISHA , TANI : Hausa of W. Africa name meaning “born on Monday.”
ZAKIYA : Swahili name meaning “smart, intelligent.”
TITI : Nigerian name meaning “flower.”
SAFIA , SAFIYA , SAFIYEH , SAFIYYAH : Swahili and Arabic name meaning “pure and wise” or “lion’s share.”
LULU : Swahili and Muslim name meaning “pearl” or “precious.”
KADIJA , KHADIJA : Swahili name meaning “born prematurely.”
AMINA : Somali and Muslim female name meaning “trustful, honest” and referring to Muhammed’s mother. This name is popular with the Hausa of West Africa.

Correction on Khadijah it’s actually of Arabic/Islamic origin in relation to Mohammed (peace be upon hims) first wife and also meaning born prematurely. It important to note children born prematurely were often seen as special or ‘golden child’ in many cultures. Correction also on Nana which comes from Akan tradition in Ghana it is used to refer to royalty and give a gender neutral indication of King/queen it’s also used in reference elderly members of the family ie grandparents.

o_O so my best friend’s name means “pure and wise” or “lion’s share”
cool

No name is actually ghetto.
To a white person or a POC with a heavy anti-black complexity due to white supremacy, it is not the actual name of the person or the way it is spelled which they consider ghetto, it is the person themselves whole. What makes the name ghetto is not how it sounds or it place of origin, but the black body it is attached to.
Which also Attributes to why white people can name their children “Haley/Haleigh/Hailey/Halley/Hallie” or “Megan/Meagan/Meghan/Meaghan/Maygan”; even the not so ordinary names like ‘Lakelyn’ ‘Ashlyn’ etc etc without batting an eye, because it is attached to a white woman’s body.
It’s why a black child named ‘Asia’ is considered an extreme, but a white child can be named ‘Montana’, the name of a southern state, it’s perfectly normal.
Where as if this woman was BLACK and her name is “Ashleigh”, people would make commentary often about how ‘unique’ the spelling of her name is or how black people are always making up new names of spellings of words.
Love the names your parents gave you. If someone says it’s “ghetto”, I guess you just found out who is racist and who you won’t need or respect later in life.
If you are foreign to a country, DO NOT take a nickname some lazy, ignorant, bigot white person tries to give you. MAKE THEM learn your name, no names are actually that difficult, it’s the mentality that stops a person from learning the correct pronunciation of a name.

As someone who’s name gets butchered all the time…this resonances…names are interesting…do we really want a world where everyone is named john, or Stephanie or Mohammad? Mix it up! :)

I can’t even believe this is still an issue. All these names are beautiful! My neighbor’s daughter is named Kamia (which means flower).
I agree with talldarklefty, unique names make life interesting. Aren’t there enough Michaels, Marys, Johns, and Janes in the world?

talldarklefty:

reverseracism:

postwhitesociety:

pokerwithplato:

subconsciouscelebrity:

The meanings of a few names that people would typically think are ghetto and meaningless

LAKEISHA: a swahili name meaning “favorite one”

LATEEFAH: a north african name meaning “gentle and pleasant”

LATONIA: a latin name. latonia was the mother of diana in roman mythology

LATISHA: means “happiness”

TAKIYA: a north african name meaning “righteous”

ESHE. African Swahili name meaning “immortal”

KALISHA. Probably from the Galla word kalisha “sorcerer, wizard, witch doctor, magician”

LEENA (لينا). Another spelling of Arabic Lina (q.v.), meaning “softness.” In use in Africa.

MAKENA. African Kikuyu name meaning “the happy one.”

NIA. African Swahili name meaning “intention, life purpose, mind.”

MONIFA. African Yoruba name, meaning “I am luck,” from mo “I,” and ifa “profit, luck.”

NUBIA. Unisex. African. From the name of the country Nubia, meaning “land of gold,” from the Coptic word for gold.

AYANA : Ethiopian female name meaning “beautiful flower.”

SHANIKA. Unisex. African Bantu name, probably meaning “young one from the wilderness.”

SALINA. African. A name in use in Kenya. It may mean “merciful.”

TAMEKA. Another spelling of the African Congo name Tamika (q.v.), meaning “a twin,”

TAMELA. African Zulu name meaning “she who basks in the sun,”

AMARA. f. African. From the Swahili word amara, meaning “urgent business.”
Hindu. name meaning “immortal.”
African. Ethiopian. Amharic amari, meaning “agreeable, pleasing.”

CHICHI f Western African, Igbo
Diminutive of Igbo names beginning with the element Chi meaning “God”.

IMANI f & m Eastern African, Swahili, African American
Means “faith” in Swahili, ultimately of Arabic origin.

AZIZA f means “Respected. Darling.” Muslim,African, Egyptian, Arabic, Somali name meaning “gorgeous.

DALIA/DALILA f means “Gentle.”
African, Arabic, American, Egyptian, Spanish, African, Hebrew

BIBI : An East African female name meaning “daughter of a king.” Also a Kiswahili word meaning “lady” or “grandmother.”

ADA : Ibo of Nigeria name for firstborn females.

ZENA : Ethiopian name meaning “news” or “fame.”

JAMILAH f means “Beautiful.”
Arabic, Muslim, African

KALIFA f means “Chaste; holy.”
African

RASHIDI/RASHIDA f means
“Wise.” Egyptian African Swahili name meaning “righteous.”

TAJ means “Crown.”
Indian,Sanskrit, African

FATUMA : Popular Swahili and Somali versions of the name Muslim name, FATIMA, meaning “weaned.”

NANA : Ghanaian name meaning “mother of the Earth.”

AJA : High Priestess of Mecca.

ADINA : Amharic of Ethiopia word sometimes used as a female name, meaning “she has saved.”

BALINDA : A Rutooro of Uganda name meaning “patience, endurance, fortitude.” (Balinda is also used as a male name in Uganda.)

FANTA : Guinea and Cote D’Ivoire name meaning “beautiful day.”

KAYA : Ghanaian name meaning “stay and don’t go back.”

LAYLA , LAILA , LEYLA , LEILA : Swahili and Muslim name meaning “born at night.”

SHANI : Swahili name meaning “marvelous.”

ANAYA : Ibo of Eastern Nigeria name meaning “look up to God.”

TANISHA , TANI : Hausa of W. Africa name meaning “born on Monday.”

ZAKIYA : Swahili name meaning “smart, intelligent.”

TITI : Nigerian name meaning “flower.”

SAFIA , SAFIYA , SAFIYEH , SAFIYYAH : Swahili and Arabic name meaning “pure and wise” or “lion’s share.”

LULU : Swahili and Muslim name meaning “pearl” or “precious.”

KADIJA , KHADIJA : Swahili name meaning “born prematurely.”

AMINA : Somali and Muslim female name meaning “trustful, honest” and referring to Muhammed’s mother. This name is popular with the Hausa of West Africa.

Correction on Khadijah it’s actually of Arabic/Islamic origin in relation to Mohammed (peace be upon hims) first wife and also meaning born prematurely. It important to note children born prematurely were often seen as special or ‘golden child’ in many cultures. Correction also on Nana which comes from Akan tradition in Ghana it is used to refer to royalty and give a gender neutral indication of King/queen it’s also used in reference elderly members of the family ie grandparents.

o_O so my best friend’s name means “pure and wise” or “lion’s share”

cool

No name is actually ghetto.

To a white person or a POC with a heavy anti-black complexity due to white supremacy, it is not the actual name of the person or the way it is spelled which they consider ghetto, it is the person themselves whole. What makes the name ghetto is not how it sounds or it place of origin, but the black body it is attached to.

Which also Attributes to why white people can name their children “Haley/Haleigh/Hailey/Halley/Hallie” or “Megan/Meagan/Meghan/Meaghan/Maygan”; even the not so ordinary names like ‘Lakelyn’ ‘Ashlyn’ etc etc without batting an eye, because it is attached to a white woman’s body.

It’s why a black child named ‘Asia’ is considered an extreme, but a white child can be named ‘Montana’, the name of a southern state, it’s perfectly normal.


Where as if this woman was BLACK and her name is “Ashleigh”, people would make commentary often about how ‘unique’ the spelling of her name is or how black people are always making up new names of spellings of words.

Love the names your parents gave you. If someone says it’s “ghetto”, I guess you just found out who is racist and who you won’t need or respect later in life.

If you are foreign to a country, DO NOT take a nickname some lazy, ignorant, bigot white person tries to give you. MAKE THEM learn your name, no names are actually that difficult, it’s the mentality that stops a person from learning the correct pronunciation of a name.

As someone who’s name gets butchered all the time…this resonances…names are interesting…do we really want a world where everyone is named john, or Stephanie or Mohammad? Mix it up! :)

I can’t even believe this is still an issue. All these names are beautiful! My neighbor’s daughter is named Kamia (which means flower).

I agree with talldarklefty, unique names make life interesting. Aren’t there enough Michaels, Marys, Johns, and Janes in the world?