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accidentalpassenger:

interstellarspeedster:

felixkins:

witchester:

khaleesisizebed:

blusuedeshoez:

the LGBTQA resource center made a lil typo, i fixed it
*rolls eyes into oblivion*

And DONT erase ally either!

no just erase the ally
erase all the ally
being an ally is not a sexual orientation or a way of life that is discriminated against
so just erase the ally

Being an ally is like being a parent at a sporting event. Like yes great, you know those people on the field and you care about them but you are not playing the game you are not the one who is going to get hurt you have no stakes you personally do not ‘win’ anything so changing the A to ally is like a parent running out onto a field after a big game, ripping the trophy away from the child and being like:
LOOK AT ME! LOOK AT ME! I WON! I WON THE GAME! ME IT WAS ALL ME YOU GUYS COULDN’T HAVE DONE IT WITHOUT ME!!!!!!
and that is just plain silly.

You know what, no. It’s not like that. It’s not like that at all. Figuring out that I was bisexual was a bitch and a half, and it was just as hard on my sister as it was on me because she was the one to hold my hand while I was doubting myself, she was the one to tell me it was going to be okay and I was fine the way I was, she was the one to reassure me that no matter what happened I was still me and that was all that mattered. My pain was her pain, she stayed by me and she supported me and she sat with me through hours of research and introspection and self-realization, and I could not have sorted it all out without her.
And now, years later, when she’s sitting here confessing in whispers that she thinks she may be asexual, it’s my turn to be here for her, to help her through the research, to hold her hand, because she is terrified of what this could do to her eight-year-long relationship, I’m finally fully appreciating for the first time just how much love and strength it took for her to be my ally when I needed her, back when she thought she was just a hetero-normative female and I was the one in crisis. Because holy fuck, it’s not easy watching someone you love being scared about their whole identity and knowing that there’s no way in hell you can just make it go away. Even if you’ve been in their shoes before it’s actually pretty fucking scary.
So seriously, do not erase the asexuals OR the allies. It’s not easy being either. And I will gladly stand up to anyone who tries to deny EITHER of the A’s… on my sister’s behalf.

How dare you. How fucking dare  you. Do you have any idea how important allys are? You must be so fucking privileged that you have the utmost confidence in yourself that you can face all the hate on your own, that you can come out to whom ever you so desire and not need someone to hold you at night and tell you that everything is okay, you aren’t some monster that should be put down, that you are a person who needs and deserves love. I’m so glad you are so lucky. But I have news for you. Most of us? We don’t have that confidence. For a whole fucking lot of us, without our allies, we wouldn’t be able to accept ourselves. We would hate ourselves and live in fear and confusion.
For me in particular? If I didn’t have my allies, I would be dead. There is no maybe. So don’t you DARE undermine the importance of being an ally and don’t you DARE undermine the dangers that allies face just for being “okay” with someone who isn’t cis-gendered. Nothing about you makes you so special that you are somehow better than the people who accept us for who we are no matter what and keep us alive. Who love us and keep us safe from ourselves and the hurtful words of others. Nothing.
Add Asexuals. They deserve to be represented. But don’t you fucking DARE erase Allies and treat them like they are nothing.

This is the most ridiculous argument I’ve ever seen on the subject. It’s not about being “Better” than anyone else. It’s about making sure sexual minorities are represented. 
The “A” stands for Asexual, not Ally. Allies are not a sexual minority.
Yes, allies are important. But EVERYONE should be an ally. That’s what the LGBTQIA movement is about, promoting acceptance.
By the way, the “I”, which is missing from the LGBTQA resource center, stands for “Intersexed”. — According to isna.org, “Intersex” is a general term used for a variety of conditions in which a person is born with a reproductive or sexual anatomy that doesn’t seem to fit the typical definitions of female or male. It’s common practice to assign a sex to intersex children based on the doctor’s whim, which is very often wrong. As you can imagine, puberty can be a very traumatic experience for intersexed children that were assigned the wrong gender. — Let alone a very difficult adulthood.
It seems to me that more people disregard Asexuals and Intersexed than Allies. Asexuals are more mythical than Bisexuals. And Intersex, though rare, is only now becoming part of the conversation.
In my opinion, the little league comparison is appropriate. Allies are like parents and fans cheering from the stands, which is really important. Without the support of the fans, the players are pointless. But the players are the focus here, not the audience which, like an ally, has the privilege to come and go at will.
True allies, like all good friends, know that they are not the star of the show. They don’t need a gold star for doing the right thing. I will always value our allies. Without allies, the LGBTQIA movement would not have gotten far. We’d still be hiding in the closet. We’d still be sneaking down dark alleys to hidden bars with vice cops waiting to arrest us. Without allies, same-sex marriage would hardly be a dream. Allies are vital to every movement. But we’re not fighting for ally rights. We are fighting for sexual minority rights.
Think of it this way. I consider myself an ally to *POC. But Black folks are better served by me if I stand by their side while they take the podium. It’s not about me. I don’t get a gold star for doing the right thing. 
*Note: I use the term POC (People Of Color) instead of African Americans here because not all non-whites are from Africa.

accidentalpassenger:

interstellarspeedster:

felixkins:

witchester:

khaleesisizebed:

blusuedeshoez:

the LGBTQA resource center made a lil typo, i fixed it

*rolls eyes into oblivion*

And DONT erase ally either!

no just erase the ally

erase all the ally

being an ally is not a sexual orientation or a way of life that is discriminated against

so just erase the ally

Being an ally is like being a parent at a sporting event. Like yes great, you know those people on the field and you care about them but you are not playing the game you are not the one who is going to get hurt you have no stakes you personally do not ‘win’ anything so changing the A to ally is like a parent running out onto a field after a big game, ripping the trophy away from the child and being like:

LOOK AT ME! LOOK AT ME! I WON! I WON THE GAME! ME IT WAS ALL ME YOU GUYS COULDN’T HAVE DONE IT WITHOUT ME!!!!!!

and that is just plain silly.

You know what, no. It’s not like that. It’s not like that at all. Figuring out that I was bisexual was a bitch and a half, and it was just as hard on my sister as it was on me because she was the one to hold my hand while I was doubting myself, she was the one to tell me it was going to be okay and I was fine the way I was, she was the one to reassure me that no matter what happened I was still me and that was all that mattered. My pain was her pain, she stayed by me and she supported me and she sat with me through hours of research and introspection and self-realization, and I could not have sorted it all out without her.

And now, years later, when she’s sitting here confessing in whispers that she thinks she may be asexual, it’s my turn to be here for her, to help her through the research, to hold her hand, because she is terrified of what this could do to her eight-year-long relationship, I’m finally fully appreciating for the first time just how much love and strength it took for her to be my ally when I needed her, back when she thought she was just a hetero-normative female and I was the one in crisis. Because holy fuck, it’s not easy watching someone you love being scared about their whole identity and knowing that there’s no way in hell you can just make it go away. Even if you’ve been in their shoes before it’s actually pretty fucking scary.

So seriously, do not erase the asexuals OR the allies. It’s not easy being either. And I will gladly stand up to anyone who tries to deny EITHER of the A’s… on my sister’s behalf.

How dare you. How fucking dare you. Do you have any idea how important allys are? You must be so fucking privileged that you have the utmost confidence in yourself that you can face all the hate on your own, that you can come out to whom ever you so desire and not need someone to hold you at night and tell you that everything is okay, you aren’t some monster that should be put down, that you are a person who needs and deserves love. I’m so glad you are so lucky. But I have news for you. Most of us? We don’t have that confidence. For a whole fucking lot of us, without our allies, we wouldn’t be able to accept ourselves. We would hate ourselves and live in fear and confusion.

For me in particular? If I didn’t have my allies, I would be dead. There is no maybe. So don’t you DARE undermine the importance of being an ally and don’t you DARE undermine the dangers that allies face just for being “okay” with someone who isn’t cis-gendered. Nothing about you makes you so special that you are somehow better than the people who accept us for who we are no matter what and keep us alive. Who love us and keep us safe from ourselves and the hurtful words of others. Nothing.

Add Asexuals. They deserve to be represented. But don’t you fucking DARE erase Allies and treat them like they are nothing.

This is the most ridiculous argument I’ve ever seen on the subject. It’s not about being “Better” than anyone else. It’s about making sure sexual minorities are represented.

The “A” stands for Asexual, not Ally. Allies are not a sexual minority.

Yes, allies are important. But EVERYONE should be an ally. That’s what the LGBTQIA movement is about, promoting acceptance.

It seems to me that more people disregard Asexuals and Intersexed than Allies. Asexuals are more mythical than Bisexuals. And Intersex, though rare, is only now becoming part of the conversation.

In my opinion, the little league comparison is appropriate. Allies are like parents and fans cheering from the stands, which is really important. Without the support of the fans, the players are pointless. But the players are the focus here, not the audience which, like an ally, has the privilege to come and go at will.

True allies, like all good friends, know that they are not the star of the show. They don’t need a gold star for doing the right thing. I will always value our allies. Without allies, the LGBTQIA movement would not have gotten far. We’d still be hiding in the closet. We’d still be sneaking down dark alleys to hidden bars with vice cops waiting to arrest us. Without allies, same-sex marriage would hardly be a dream. Allies are vital to every movement. But we’re not fighting for ally rights. We are fighting for sexual minority rights.

Think of it this way. I consider myself an ally to *POC. But Black folks are better served by me if I stand by their side while they take the podium. It’s not about me. I don’t get a gold star for doing the right thing. 

  • *Note: I use the term POC (People Of Color) instead of African Americans here because not all non-whites are from Africa.

(Source: blusuedebonez)

cismesis:

waltass:

VIRGINIA JUST LEGALIZED GAY SAME-SEX MARRIAGE FIRST STATE IN THE SOUTH 30 MINUTES AGO HELL FUCKIN YEA TURN THE FUCK UP IN THIS STATE FUNCTION

source, source

But I don’t want a gay same-sex wedding. A simple same-sex wedding will suffice. :\

I’m reblogging this because it’s a tiny shred of hope in an otherwise miserable week of unbelievable, almost outlandish, bad news.

A same-sex couple who have been together for nearly 40 years finally got married at a local hospital. NBC10 was there for the emotional wedding.


After being together for nearly 40 years and in the midst of a health crisis, a local same-sex couple finally tied the knot at a local hospital.

Staff members at Riddle Hospital in Media, Delaware County held a wedding ceremony for Carol and Bobbie Wednesday afternoon. The couple, who have been together for 38 years, say they’ve wanted to get married for awhile but were unable to do so due to Pennsylvania’s marriage law.

Thirty-eight years. FOUR FRIGGIN DECADES!!! That’s longer than most of the people on Tumblr have been alive.
While I am touched by the humanity of the Riddle Hospital staff, I’m really pissed off that these women had to wait until one was on her deathbed before their four decade long relationship was finally recognized by the state. The audacity of people who so selfishly cling to their own wants that they insist on interfering with the lives of others just blows my fn mind.
Congratulations to Carol and Bobbie. I’m hoping that Carol gets well enough that maybe they can spend some time together as a married couple.
Damn. Now my eyes are watering. Stupid allergies. :\

mercedeslezzies:

I think this speaks for itself. Accepting a person doesn’t mean you get to put limits on their freedom. You can’t be an ally and want us to stop talking, or labeling, or demanding to be heard.  

Acceptance has no exceptions. Period. 

Nothing to add.

claudiaboleyn:

Cishets take note. 
This is victim blaming and not how you should ever speak to my community. 
This sort of speech puts the blame for LGBTQIAP+phobia on our community for simply being out. 
A basic translation is: 
We will only treat you as human if you pretend to be straight. 
If you don’t think our community has tried everything to stop the hatred and abuse against us then you need to think harder. 
The reason we still face this unacceptable bigotry is not because we refuse to be ashamed of our identities, it’s because of bigots like the tweeter above. 
Cis straight people have the privilege of being able to ‘flaunt’ their identities (aka live their lives without fear of hatred and harm on the basis of that identity) every single day. 
I’ll stop making my sexuality relevant the moment cis straight people fear holding the hand of their significant other in public.
I’ll stop making my sexuality relevant the moment cis straight people are denied the right to marry. 
I’ll stop making my sexuality relevant the moment I stop hearing about friends and members of my community being made homeless by their bigoted cis heterosexual parents. 
I’ll stop making my sexuality relevant the moment I stop hearing about members of my community being bullied, beaten, and even killed, for simply being who they are.
I’ll stop making my sexuality relevant the moment cis straight people stop calling my sexuality a ‘disease’ I need to be cured of. 
I’ll stop making my sexuality relevant the moment cis straight people, as a collective, can get their shit together and learn to treat me and my community like human beings. 
Cis straight people made my sexuality relevant the moment they started denying me rights and discriminating against me and my community on the basis of it. 

"I’ll stop making my sexuality relevant the moment I stop hearing about members of my community being bullied, beaten, and even killed, for simply being who they are.”
I’ll stop making my sexuality relevant the moment I stop hearing about Trans Women of Color being targeted for hate and murdered in the streets.

claudiaboleyn:

Cishets take note. 

This is victim blaming and not how you should ever speak to my community. 

This sort of speech puts the blame for LGBTQIAP+phobia on our community for simply being out. 

A basic translation is: 

We will only treat you as human if you pretend to be straight. 

If you don’t think our community has tried everything to stop the hatred and abuse against us then you need to think harder. 

The reason we still face this unacceptable bigotry is not because we refuse to be ashamed of our identities, it’s because of bigots like the tweeter above. 

Cis straight people have the privilege of being able to ‘flaunt’ their identities (aka live their lives without fear of hatred and harm on the basis of that identity) every single day. 

I’ll stop making my sexuality relevant the moment cis straight people fear holding the hand of their significant other in public.

I’ll stop making my sexuality relevant the moment cis straight people are denied the right to marry. 

I’ll stop making my sexuality relevant the moment I stop hearing about friends and members of my community being made homeless by their bigoted cis heterosexual parents. 

I’ll stop making my sexuality relevant the moment I stop hearing about members of my community being bullied, beaten, and even killed, for simply being who they are.

I’ll stop making my sexuality relevant the moment cis straight people stop calling my sexuality a ‘disease’ I need to be cured of. 

I’ll stop making my sexuality relevant the moment cis straight people, as a collective, can get their shit together and learn to treat me and my community like human beings. 

Cis straight people made my sexuality relevant the moment they started denying me rights and discriminating against me and my community on the basis of it. 

"I’ll stop making my sexuality relevant the moment I stop hearing about members of my community being bullied, beaten, and even killed, for simply being who they are.”

I’ll stop making my sexuality relevant the moment I stop hearing about Trans Women of Color being targeted for hate and murdered in the streets.

outrising:

Here’s What Happened When A Three And A Five Year Old Had A Conversation About Gay Marriage

The Gay Women Channel have released a short video that features a three year old girl and a five year old boy discussing marriage and whether they would marry a boy or a girl. It is, after all, the modern dilemma of or generation (even for toddlers, apparently).

But there’s a twist. Because – shock horror! – the actors that portray the kids are REAL LIFE ADULTS. I know, right. Who knew? But the voices are REAL LIFE CHILDREN. *mind blown…* Read more.

It’s a shame we can’t hold onto the openness and wonder of childhood.