Find out more about Transgender Day of Remembrance at www.transgenderdor.org
See the list of people who died because of anti-transgender violence in 2012.
My very first friend in the gay community was transgender. I had just come out. She said I looked like I was “delightfully lost” — as in I was having so much fun, that I absolutely did not want to be found. :)
She looked out for me - kept me out of trouble - made sure I didn’t get caught up with the wrong crowd.
The summer after we met, her charred and mutilated corpse was found wrapped in a black plastic trash bag, dumped by the side of I-95. Her’s was one of the many bodies of transgender persons found along the highway that summer. It was a sickening reminder of how much hate there is in our world.
Maybe it’s because of her that I don’t feel the need to judge everything I don’t understand. “Darling!” she used to say, “It’s not your job to understand. It just is.”
She had a way of putting things. Had she lived long enough, she would have laid claim to the phrase, “It is what it is.”
It’s important to remember that transgender folks played a huge part in LGBT history. Though not identified as transgender at the time, trans people made up a fair share of the crowd that fought police at the Stonewall in 1969. That crowd was made up primarily of outcasts; people who had little to lose — among them, drag queens, hustlers, homeless youth and transgender people.
It takes courage to change the world, and who has more courage than those that must defend themselves every single day of their lives? — ADignorantium