ADignorantium

thelesbianmafia:

Dear Feminists, what have you done for lesbians lately? Or ever? Or women in general for that matter? Other than feminisms long history of homophobia excluding lesbians while lesbians were on the front lines getting it done, and feminist’s present day homophobic demonisation of lesbians and using the full weight of feminism to side against us under a “pro-lgbt” “pro-gay marriage” cover what have feminists done for us? Other than demonizing lesbians every chance they get in OUR own communities’ struggles against misogyny and lesbian erasure (affairs they know nothing about) please tell us what have you done for us lately?

Lesbians always support feminists and women, their right to birth control and abortion, the fight against rape culture and oppression of women in all areas of life but what do they do for us? They wade into issues within OUR community and without a thought demonize lesbians and try to smear us before the words even come out of our mouths. We are WRONG and not allowed to even discuss conflicts in OUR own community that affect us. We don’t need birth control or abortions but we support them decade after decade after decade. WTF have they done for us?

When we raise questions about the consequences of certain aspects of the transgender agenda our concerns are dismissed as transphobia and they won’t even feign to hear how it affects us. We’re just dismissed as cunts. Simple. We have no needs. If there is a conflict within OUR community we are by default wrong and must suck it. These feminists are mostly women who have no clue how to function or what it is like to live in our world without a husband or boy friend but can’t be bothered trying to understand how anything affects how we lead our daily lives. How important safe-space and women-only space is to lesbians who do not have a husband or boyfriend at home. They have no clue and they don’t care, they won’t consider putting on our shoes for a millisecond, they will simply argue fight and smear us. Not all women have husbands blah blah blah they will bring up examples and tell US that our lives and experience is insignificant, not different at all and we are simply transphobic cunts.

Even when lesbians aren’t single we are still under threat without assistance even when coupled. Men don’t walk up to their husbands and ask if they have sex with one or both of them and if not why and then follow them to their car and onto the highway. If they hear a noise in the middle of the night they wake up their husband or boyfriend. We still just have another woman laying next to us. If someone stalks us they’ll find two bitches to rape instead of one, BONUS! Most lesbians never have the security of a man’s presence in the same way straight women do and in the way that deters predators. Many of us don’t have someone to go with us to buy a car so they don’t immediately try to take advantage of us “dumb bitches”. Many lesbians are estranged from family and don’t have the benefit of male family members. Feminists sit on their perch talking about how they don’t need men and how women are totes equal to men while their husband is sleeping in the bedroom, while many of us as lesbians especially the more femme among us KNOW and live the truth of that lie and as a result are acutely aware of our disadvantages in a man’s world. We could go on and on and on for days listing all of the ways but they don’t wanna hear it. Because they don’t wanna know just how much easier it is with a man around even if it is temporary or short term. We never get this. Two women (if you’re lucky enough to be in a stable relationship) gotta handle everything IN a man’s world. They can’t deny it’s a man’s world but they don’t have the first clue what it is like to live in one without one ever. It doesn’t matter if you were or are single. We NEVER get that or any of the advantages of it or just being straight. It is a huge part of how we live. We can have partners and we still are affected by all the shit single women are affected by in addition to homophobia, while most women end up getting married. Most women date guys. And are typically still under the protection somewhat at least by the males in their families.

We are not going to ask feminists or anyone for permission to discuss things that affect us. To just eat it silently when the pursuit of rights for trans women conflict with our rights and our very existence. We won’t beg to be considered or for someone to listen to what it is like to BE us. We won’t try to justify and plead with deaf ears. Feminists don’t want to hear what it is like for us nor do they want to consider how things affect us. They instead paint us as hateful oppressors and that is so laughable AND offensive it doesn’t even deserve to be addressed. If they can’t even consider looking at an issue from our perspective, then we’ll sit back and watch while abortion clinics close and birth control of all things is attacked. Feminists have been too busy attacking lesbians to notice that feminism is in shambles.

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Dozens of major companies file amicus brief defending marriage equality

gaywrites:

Apple, Facebook, eBay, Intel and dozens more American corporations will submit an amicus brief to the Supreme Court today defending marriage equality in light of the upcoming cases on Prop 8 and DOMA.

According to a copy of the brief obtained by Fortune, the companies signing on say that laws like Prop 8 “send an unmistakeable signal that same-sex couples are in some way inferior to opposite-sex couples, a proposition that is anathema to amici’s commitment to equality and fair treatment to all.”

They also made the argument pro-marriage-equality folks bring up all the time, but that conservatives never seem to hear: same-sex marriage is good for business.

Fleshing out that contention, the companies argue: “By singling out a group for less favorable treatment, Proposition 8 impedes businesses from achieving the market’s ideal of efficient operations — particularly in recruiting, hiring, and retaining talented people who are in the best position to operate at their highest capacity. Amici are competing domestically and internationally with companies inside and outside the United States in places where all couples, regardless of whether they are of the same sex, are afforded equal access to marriage.”

Specifically, it suggests that when “potential recruits or employees are members of a same-sex couple,” they “may forgo the opportunity to work in California, and prefer other states (like Iowa, New York, and Massachusetts) or other nations (like Spain, Sweden, Denmark, the Netherlands, Portugal, or Belgium) where they can be married and obtain equal treatment and respect under the law.”

Laws like Prop 8 “leave companies in the untenable position of being compelled implicitly to endorse the second-class status to which their gay and lesbian employees, clients, customers, and business associates are relegated,” the brief argues. “Until the law no longer relegates same-sex couples to second-class status as inferior “domestic partnerships,” our adherence to the law compels us to abide by a distinction that stigmatizes and dehumanizes gay men and lesbians.”

Basically, this is a very wordy way of saying that equality is the only way to go. Everyone’s starting to realize it. It’s only a matter of time before we don’t even have to ask this question anymore.

The Legacy of Dr. King and Our Struggle to End AIDS

January 17th, 2013 by bcarter

This Monday, as the nation commemorates the legacy of Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr., President Barack Obama will also be sworn in for his second term as President of the United States. The historic significance of this event cannot be overstated, and for those of us who have dedicated our lives to realizing Dr. King’s vision of not just racial equality, but social justice, Monday will mark the culmination of decades of struggle. But with each success, we are reminded that our nation’s march toward equality is never complete. It is a constant evolution of hearts and minds, policy and tradition. Thanks to the work of Dr. King and so many others, our nation’s made incredible progress, but substantial work remains.

The fight against HIV/AIDS has always been about more than the search for medicine or a cure. It has been a battle for human dignity. To demonstrate that each life, regardless of race, sexual orientation, gender identity, nation of origin, or religion, has inherent value. From the beginning, this epidemic has taken the largest toll on our most marginalized communities. From gay men and transgender women, to injection drug users and people of color, those who are most often shut out of our nation’s halls of affluence and power are also the most vulnerable to a whole host of health challenges, including HIV.

Over the last four years, we’ve made huge strides in leveling the playing field…

Paul Kawata
Executive Director
National Minority AIDS Council

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crownmalone:

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pussyharvest:

danielmcbatman:

cougarmeat:

Men feel the pressures of society just as much as women. Through my internet searches I have come across nothing that encourages body positivity in men. This needs to change.

Please, tell me of the struggles this dude faces as a white male. I’m really interested in hearing about the alternate reality that he inhabits.

WHAT A DUMBASS POST

CRY HARDER WHITE BOY

Booohooooo who says all girls wanna look like barbie dipshit

Whoa, whoa, whoa. Are you guys honestly saying that just because he’s a man and white? Are you fucking kidding me? You all do realize what you’re technically saying right? You’re pretty much saying that that this guy has no right to be sad because there are people out there who have it worse. I thought that was one of the main things you never tell a person with depression, so why are any of you saying that here?

Seriously, what world do you guys live in? What if a white man abused as a child? What if they were told that they were not good enough by their family and and people around him? Do you think every white guy lives a life where everybody loves them, nobody thinks they’re ugly and they get everything they want by simply asking for it once? You have to be a complete fool to believe that.

Are you trying to tell me that a white person can’t be depressed because he is “privileged over everybody else”? Let me put it to you like this: Let’s say a white man loses his job, is insecure about his body (because maybe he’s not very tall or muscular, which is what society today tells a man he should look like), and has no friends. Now let’s say you have a successful black business woman who makes a lot of money, has a great social life, but also has depression. Which one of these two people has more right to be depressed? The answer: NEITHER!!!! Because depression is not always about how successful you are life or what you have. Depression is feeling that you’re not a good enough person no matter who you are and how hard you try.

All you that contributed to the above commentary should be ashamed of yourselves. There are people out there, include white boys, who hate themselves because of their looks. They will self harm just like anybody else with self hate issues, but none of you care. All you care about is their gender and skin color. I’d hate to see what any of you would say if ever met a cutter that happened to be a white guy. What would you say when if showed you his scars? Would you laugh in his face? What if he told you that he attempted suicide? Would you roll your eyes at him?

None of you are any better than those racist and sexist people you claim to hate so much. You don’t want equality. You want anybody that shares physical similarities with “the oppressor” to feel like shit. You want people who to be looked down upon because of the their race and gender; two things they have no control over. How is that any better than someone belittling a black/hispanic/asian/etc person because of a broad and untrue generalization?

I’ve come to realize this important fact: Tumblr isn’t the safe haven for logical people that so many people want to claim it is. It’s full immature, hypocritical , and ignorant people just like any other website. I don’t care if I lose followers because of this. This has to stop.

I am a white male who’s cut, attempted suicide, is diagnosed with depression, and who has a personality disorder (Borderline). I’m disgusted by my body, my feelings, and everything about me. Through five years of horrid depression and the past two years of recovery, I’ve managed to find a reason to live.

But how fucking DARE you say that because of my genitalia and skin colour I face no problems? I’m a white male, but I’m also gay. Oh, now I’m suddenly in your good books again. My being gay excuses my being a white male and makes my depression valid, doesn’t it? Suddenly, I face insurmountable social odds and inequalities, right?

Think before you speak, you racist, sexist, dipshits.

Bless this post- and fuck the people in the middle who actually buy into the idea that life is guaranteed to be easy simply because you’re white and male

I’m obviously not white but while being born white and male in most of the world can give you a leg up it definitely doesn’t guarantee happiness/success/what have you. The gender/racial combination has a right to every range of emotion as any other as how i see it…and regardless of race…being a dude is hard, that doesn’t diminish or lessen the fact that being a woman is hard as well…it’s not a zero-sum game? why do so many people assume that it is?

What a pity. Even in our presumptions, our hate, and our criticisms of one another, we are more alike that some of us wish to acknowledge.

Makes me smile. :)

(Source: sickeninglyliberal)

gaywrites:

It’s LGBT History Month. National Coming Out Day and Spirit Day are coming up. If you’ve got a few bucks to spare, help out these incredible, important organizations.

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mistermajik2000:

Rainbow pride

This picture is so sweet, it makes my heart ache. :)