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Hey, I am a gay girl born into a Muslim family. The only time I was ever "religious" was as a kid when I was first learning about Islam. Growing up, I went through a lot and started losing faith. Now I feel like I cannot go back to the religion even if I wanted to because of my sexuality. I will never be accepted. I also feel like Islam prioritizes men and as a feminist that goes against what I believe in. Is there still room for me in this religion or should I start searching for another faith?


Hey so I crowdsourced a lot of this answer: [updating as I get more suggestions and resources]

Personally, I couldn’t be a Muslim and follow Islam if I didn’t find it feminist, full of social justice and intersectional. Unfortunately patriarchy and self interest tries to pass itself off as moralistic and religious —this is universal. Also it’s helpful to keep in mind that if any authority tries to tell you to hate and discriminate know that it isn’t from God or any moral compass—but fear. 

O you who have attained to faith! Be ever steadfast in upholding equity, bearing witness to the truth for the sake of God, even though it be against your own selves or your parents and kinsfolk. Whether the person concerned be rich or poor, God’s claim takes precedence over [the claims of] either of them. Do not, then, follow your own desires, lest you swerve from justice: for if you distort [the truth], behold, God is indeed aware of all that you do!

- The Holy Qur’an [4:135]

believe the Prophet Muhammad [saw] was a radical-feminist-environmental anti-racist community organizer, activist and freedom fighter that believed in freeing people from the status quo and freeing them from oppression through Islam and Allah [swt]. And I believe in following that tradition.

“Truly, God does not change the condition of a people until they change what is in themselves.” (Quran 13:11)

I believe it was Aisha [ra] that had a close friend that was a hijra and didn’t wear a hijab, or covering around them. There was plenty of queer people in and around the Prophet Muhammad’s [s] life time.

I could name-drop Sufi saints and poets from various times and places who violated norms of gender and sexuality on one level or another. Ali ibn Hamzah al-Asadi, more widely known as al-Kisa’i al-Kufi (d.804). As the transmitter of one of the Qur’an’s seven harfs (“readings”) in Sunni tradition, he’s an immeasurably important figure in the history of the Qur’an as a text. As such, his knowledge and character were both under close examination. In one assessment, al-Marzubani, speaking on the authority Ibn al-Arabi (the jurist, not the mystic), described al-Kisa’i as “one of the most learned persons” while adding that al-Kisa’i openly confessed to engaging in acts that included same-sex relations. “Yet,” he adds, al-Kisa’i remained “an accurate reader, knowledgeable in the Arabic language, and honest.” 

This does not answer all questions, but it offers something. In Sunni Islam, there are seven canonical ways of reading the Qur’an. Al-Kisa’i al-Kufi is the man who gave us one of them. He devoted his life to knowing and teaching the Qur’an. It should go without saying that al-Kisa’i al-Kufi memorized the entire scripture by heart and recited it every day of his life. Along the way, he apparently fucked dudes. The lips that he used to recite divine scripture also touched men.

“O people, we created you all from a male and female
And made you into different communities and different tribes
So that you should come to know one another
Acknowledging that the most noble among you 
Is the one most aware of God
Qur’an 49:13
The most noble is the one most aware of God. This is not just incitement for all Muslims to increase their awareness of God – it is also a warning to pursue a policy of social tolerance. The implication of this verse is that no Muslim is better than another because of any of the social categories that we use to classify ourselves, such as race, ethnicity, economic class, or gender. Or even sexual orientation. A gay or lesbian Muslim is no less than a heterosexual Muslim, except by the intangible criterion of pious awareness of God (taqwa). A transgender
Muslim is no less than other Muslims who have not struggled with their own gender identity and faced the stigma of changing gender classification, except by awareness of God. 
Most Muslims cherish reciting this verse to oppose the evils of racial superiority, ethnic chauvinism, and class arrogance. Yet some see this verse as a call to justice that rings far beyond its terse words.”
Scott Siraj al-Haqq Kugle, HOMOSEXUALITY IN ISLAM

El-Farouk Khaki, the founder of Salaam [a queer Muslim organization in Canada] says:  you can connect her w me, or with Daayiee Abdullahmy email is elfin925@rogers.com she can also join https://www.facebook.com/groups/99769188589/  el-Tawhid Juma Circle: Toronto Unity Mosque & learn that there is no singular, monolith Islam, and that for some, Islam is liberationary.

EFK and the rest of the leaders at el-Tawhid Juma Circle: Toronto Unity Mosque make a point of emphasising the spiritual aspects of Islam and reducing focus on external elements.

Imam Daayiee Abdullah contact [the gay Imam in DC] (daayiee@aol.com). 

There’s also an Imam in Canada, TO who I know is pro-feminist, cool with gay Muslims and he asked me to give you his number if you would like it.

Some points

1) If you believe that God created you the way are, you can’t possible believe that God would reject you
2) The community you grew up in does not necessarily represent Islam
3) The beauty of Islam is that there is no intercession between you and God. You has every right and ability to pick up the Quran and find out what it means to you. 
4) If you find things you can’t reconcile, you should speak to others who have found themselves in a similar situation.
5) thefatalfeminist.com is a great starting point and introduction to feminism, Islam and social justice.
6) Islam does not prioritize men over women, the patriarchal actualization of Islam as seen through socially constructed norms prioritizes men over women, but that is a product of kyriarchy more than anything. If you want your faith to prioritize women, then do it. 
7) Hit up Scott Kugle at Emory who could give you some nice readings and independent studies for Lesbianism or Queer identities and Islam.

This post pretty much came about because I was asked if I had resources for Muslims who were discovering or newly coming to terms with their sexuality. I didn’t, and the poor advice I had to offer was … poor. So, I pulled up a few of the blogs I followed that are targeted towards queer Muslims, and put together this little post for you!

Queer Muslim Blogs:

Queer Muslim 101:

A good thing to remember is to avoid the self-hatred phase, if you can. Focus on loving yourself, and realising that Allah made you just the way you are, and that you are loved. If this phase is unavoidable, here are some helpful sites:

If you are a student and would like to get Faisal Alam to speak at your uni, or to see if he is coming to your uni soon, click here.

If you would like to attend Faisal Alam’s 2013 Retreat for Queer Muslims and their partners, here is the facebook event, and here is more info. Register for the retreat here.

If you are from Indonesia, Pakistan, Bangladesh, or India and want to share your experiences (anonymously), please click here.

If you can spare some funds, help navigatethestream, a queer Muslim, become an Imam to help the Muslim LGBT* community!

Lastly, here is a link if you are NOT a queer Muslim, but want to be a good ALLY! (And here is another on how NOT to be a saviour!)

Muslim-Queer-Friendly Blogs:

(If you’d like to be added to or taken off this list, please send me an ask.)

More papers/books not previously mentioned:

Reblogging this for my LGBT friends of faith who may find themselves in the same crisis.

Do not let religious leaders come between you and God.

I’ve mentioned in the past that I am agnostic. Because my belief in a supreme being is complicated, does not mean I have a right to interfere with the faith of others. No man has that power. — ADignorantium






People being angry about ~dem gays~ on Target’s Facebook.

I just want to give my two cents on this and tell you a story.

A couple weeks ago, I was hired at Target. I have a job at Target. Not a big deal right?

It is a big deal because i’m a transman

It doesn’t take a genius to conclude that it’s hard for me, my brothers, and sisters to get a job. There are legal restraints regarding the job and if you don’t pass, it’s hard to be taken seriously at a job interview.

Right on the application, it asks what your preferred name is. It also asks if there is anything that target should know. I put the fact that I am a transman, expecting not to get a call because usually when you put that down, people will throw out the application. I got TWO interviews.

At the interview, they asked me about it. I told them I am on hormones and they told me that they didn’t care. Not in the sense that they don’t emotionally care, but that it didn’t matter. I was male and that’s all that mattered. They also told me that they give sex same couples benefits in states that do not recognize them as a married couple.

At my job orientation, I was not misgendered once. Even my supervisors who weren’t sure of my gender avoided pronoun use, which I found only happens when you’ve had pronoun training. They gave me a name tag with my preferred name and didn’t ask questions. I felt safe and respected, which is huge for a trans* person.

TLDR: Target is amazing not just for the LGB, but also the T. Shop there for the rest of your life.

Whelp, I’m buying everything from Target.

lol at the person calling it debauchery 

Well this is good news

I think Angela Concepcion is full of it. There are women who work at my local Target who wear a burqa, hijab and/or niqab, whom I assume are Muslim. I’ve bought pork sausage there once or twice and these very professional and friendly friendly women have never had to cash out. Furthermore, along with the myriad other seasonal items, my local Target carries religiously themed Christmas items from November through January. I’ve even seen Saturnalia cards!

I will continue to shop at Target. If for no other reason than their employment of minorities which includes LGB and T.


Find out more about Transgender Day of Remembrance at www.transgenderdor.org

See the list of people who died because of anti-transgender violence in 2012.

My very first friend in the gay community was transgender. I had just come out. She said I looked like I was “delightfully lost” — as in I was having so much fun, that I absolutely did not want to be found. :)

She looked out for me - kept me out of trouble - made sure I didn’t get caught up with the wrong crowd.

The summer after we met, her charred and mutilated corpse was found wrapped in a black plastic trash bag, dumped by the side of I-95. Her’s was one of the many bodies of transgender persons found along the highway that summer. It was a sickening reminder of how much hate there is in our world.

Maybe it’s because of her that I don’t feel the need to judge everything I don’t understand. “Darling!” she used to say, “It’s not your job to understand. It just is.”

She had a way of putting things. Had she lived long enough, she would have laid claim to the phrase, “It is what it is.”

It’s important to remember that transgender folks played a huge part in LGBT history. Though not identified as transgender at the time, trans people made up a fair share of the crowd that fought police at the Stonewall in 1969. That crowd was made up primarily of outcasts; people who had little to lose — among them, drag queens, hustlers, homeless youth and transgender people.

It takes courage to change the world, and who has more courage than those that must defend themselves every single day of their lives? — ADignorantium

(Source: gendersintensify)

Agender teen attacked in California, has skirt set on fire


TW: Hate crimes, gender-based violence, homophobia/transphobia

An agender teenager in California is recovering after a vicious hate crime by another student. 

18-year-old Sasha Fleischman had fallen asleep riding the bus home, and a 16-year-old high school student set fire to the skirt they were wearing. They tried to put the fire out alone but needed help from other passengers.

NBC Bay Area reports that the teen suspect was arrested Nov. 5 on suspicion of assault with a deadly weapon and mayhem. He may face additional charges, but officials did not disclose whether or not the incident would be investigated as a hate crime, according to that report.

"This is a horrific crime," police spokeswoman Johnna Watson is quoted as saying. "Anyone who thinks it’s OK to light another human being on fire is not OK."

A fundraising page, “Helping Sasha Have A Speedy Recovery,” was set up by a family member in an effort to raise $20,000 towards Fleischman’s medical bills. 

Oof. What a terrifying experience. Thoughts going out to Sasha for a quick and peaceful recovery. 

What a f*%king evil coward! This pisses me off to no end.

Huffingtom Post wouldn’t approve my comment; probably because it was too inflammatory. So I’m adding it to this post.

"Why are we protecting the little homophobic piece of excrement whose own questionable sexuality was so threatened by a "man in a skirt" that the only way to hide it was to viciously harm another? Why? Because he’s 16 years old?

I have news for you folks. Sixteen is a young adult!

Why didn’t anyone stop him?

If I had witnessed such a thing, I would have tried to stop it. If I couldn’t stop it, I would have beat the crap out of the little punk! Let his parents try to sue me! He’s grown up enough to set someone on fire, he’s grown up enough to take the consequences!

This pisses me the F#%K off!

When I came out, my first friend in the community was transgendered. They found her charred dead body on the side of I-95. Yeah. Someone was so insecure in his masculinity, that the only way he could make himself feel better was to set fire to another human being!

Setting someone on fire is not a prank! It’s evil! The intent is to destroy!


I hope and pray that Sasha recovers completely, and that he finds much love and acceptance in this cruel world. I pray that his life is filled with so much love and success that he becomes a role model for young people everywhere.

God bless his mother for being so supportive. Many in the LGBT community aren’t as fortunate.”

Spirit Day 2013: What to Do If You’re LGBTQ and Bullied 

by Lambda Legal

Today is Spirit Day!
For a lot of LGBTQ students, those perceived to be LGBTQ and the friends of LGBTQ students, bullying is a serious reality. But that doesn’t mean it can’t be stopped. You have a legal right to be who you are and to be safe.

For more see Lambda Legal
Spirit Day 2013: What to Do If You’re LGBTQ and Bullied

50 Cent provides support to trans teen in new series


In the new Sundance series “Dream School,” celebrities will mentor struggling teenagers through their educational aspirations. One unlikely featured guest is 50 Cent, who will be working with a transgender teenager named Alan. 

50 Cent has come under fire in the past for inflammatory and homophobic comments, but he says he never intended to offend LGBT people. Here’s his explanation:

“I don’t have homophobia. I never did,” Fifty told TheWrap, despite the fact that he has used the term “f*ggot” in song lyrics. “I would use the terminology that would be going around. My grandfather may say terms — people may actually say terms based on their experiences that were happening at that point. … You’ve got people that would call some people a redneck, or some people n——-. It’s the term of that time or that period. They’re not necessarily racist, but they’ve heard those terms used around them, and they use them.”

He added that he supported his mother’s same-sex relationship even when society might not have.

The HuffPost article linked above includes in more detail some of 50’s past comments. It’s clear that the things he’s said were too harsh to easily forgive, but it is pretty cool that he’s reaching out to trans youth now. Here’s hoping he really has changed. 

This is a good thing. I’m cautiously optimistic.