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Today is National Coming Out Day!
Life is stressful enough without secrets. It may seem scary now, but trust me, It Get’s Better.
If you are Lesbian, Gay, Bi-Sexual, Trans-Gender, or just Questioning because you’re not really sure, stop and take a breath. Count to ten. Relax.
Consider for a moment that this is YOUR Life. YOU have the right to be Happy As You Are; the way God made you. No One has the Right to Force you into THEIR Idea of what is right.
If you are under 18 and feel threatened or unsafe, Please seek help. If you are reading this online, you know how to search “LGBT Youth Resources”.  ~ Most browsers enable “Private Sessions” that don’t record Browsing History or Accept Cookies from web sites. Use it. Beware of sites that want to “Cure” you.
Coming Out is never easy. There are employment considerations, friendships, and family.
If someone Comes Out to you today, please remember that it’s not about you. It’s not a declaration of Love, either. When a person comes out to you, they are placing their trust and faith in you. Consider it a true sign of friendship. This person is revealing his/her deepest held secret. All you need to do is Listen. 
If a person Comes Out to you, remember that they have been thinking about this for a long time. They didn’t just wake up one day and say, I’m Gay! It was a long, slow, soul searching process.
No one decides they are gay on a whim. It’s a discovery that often involves self doubt and a lot of pleading deals with God. Many LGBT youth experience self hatred. Some even attempt suicide. Keep this in mind when someone comes out to you. Take a moment before you respond. Consider what you have just read on this blog post. Remember, the person Coming Out to you hasn’t changed. He or She is the same person that was your friend yesterday.
Resources to help LGBTQ Youth who may be struggling with Coming Out.
The GLBT National Help Center  http://www.glnh.org/talkline/index.html
Lambda Youth Outreach  http://www.lambda.org/youth.htm
Lambda Legal Youth http://www.lambdalegal.org/issues/youth
Lambda Legal Youth Resources PDF http://data.lambdalegal.org/publications/downloads/gdtb_lgbtq-youth-resources.pdf

Resource for Straight Folks
How To React When Someone Comes Out: Dos and Don’ts for Straight Allies http://www.gaymanners.com/straight-talk/qhow-should-i-respond-if-a-friend-comes-out-to-meq
Resource For Everyone!
PFLAG: Parents, Friends & Family, of Lesbians and Gays http://community.pflag.org/Page.aspx?pid=194&srcid=-2

Today is National Coming Out Day!

Life is stressful enough without secrets. It may seem scary now, but trust me, It Get’s Better.

If you are Lesbian, Gay, Bi-Sexual, Trans-Gender, or just Questioning because you’re not really sure, stop and take a breath. Count to ten. Relax.

Consider for a moment that this is YOUR Life. YOU have the right to be Happy As You Are; the way God made you. No One has the Right to Force you into THEIR Idea of what is right.

If you are under 18 and feel threatened or unsafe, Please seek help. If you are reading this online, you know how to search “LGBT Youth Resources”.  ~ Most browsers enable “Private Sessions” that don’t record Browsing History or Accept Cookies from web sites. Use it. Beware of sites that want to “Cure” you.

Coming Out is never easy. There are employment considerations, friendships, and family.

If someone Comes Out to you today, please remember that it’s not about you. It’s not a declaration of Love, either. When a person comes out to you, they are placing their trust and faith in you. Consider it a true sign of friendship. This person is revealing his/her deepest held secret. All you need to do is Listen.

If a person Comes Out to you, remember that they have been thinking about this for a long time. They didn’t just wake up one day and say, I’m Gay! It was a long, slow, soul searching process.

No one decides they are gay on a whim. It’s a discovery that often involves self doubt and a lot of pleading deals with God. Many LGBT youth experience self hatred. Some even attempt suicide. Keep this in mind when someone comes out to you. Take a moment before you respond. Consider what you have just read on this blog post. Remember, the person Coming Out to you hasn’t changed. He or She is the same person that was your friend yesterday.

Resources to help LGBTQ Youth who may be struggling with Coming Out.

The GLBT National Help Center  http://www.glnh.org/talkline/index.html

Lambda Youth Outreach  http://www.lambda.org/youth.htm

Lambda Legal Youth http://www.lambdalegal.org/issues/youth

Lambda Legal Youth Resources PDF http://data.lambdalegal.org/publications/downloads/gdtb_lgbtq-youth-resources.pdf

Resource for Straight Folks

How To React When Someone Comes Out: Dos and Don’ts for Straight Allies http://www.gaymanners.com/straight-talk/qhow-should-i-respond-if-a-friend-comes-out-to-meq

Resource For Everyone!

PFLAG: Parents, Friends & Family, of Lesbians and Gays http://community.pflag.org/Page.aspx?pid=194&srcid=-2

The Mask That You Choose To Wear

"What’s underneath the mask isn’t as important as the mask that you choose to wear, that’s the true indication of your imagination and spirit." - unknown

I first heard the above quote in a 1980 radio interview with Bette Midler. I was fifteen years old and going through more than the usual adolescent growing pains. The quote, which was used in reference to Ms. Midler’s search for an identity in show business, resonated with my own need to discover how I fit in with the grand scheme of things.

I was a misfit. In many ways, I still am.

Through the years, I learned that though the mask is important, without the part that’s underneath the mask, the mask itself is useless. You must be willing to share a bit of yourself in order to experience human interaction. Without human interaction, you’re just a solo performer on an empty stage; a very lonely place.

But exposing your true self can be a scary proposition.

The question is, How much of yourself are you willing to reveal? The trick is knowing just how translucent the mask should be. If your mask is opaque, you’re perceived a fake.

I suppose the real question is, “Do you live in truth, or do you live a lie?”

BTW- If anyone knows where this quote is from, please let me know.